Marriage Is Not The Finishing Line, Its The Starting Line To A Wonderful Love Story.

     Remember i mentioned 1 of the life lesson is never stop dating your wife?. Me being a mess in term of what happens to me and my pursuit to find myself didn't stop me from being the cliche on top of the world romantic guy. If there is 1 thing I can proudly say I feel like I did right is I always show appreciation to Aina. 

    Never stop dating your wife, because you never knew when your gesture will be a savior for you. Those nights where you are a little bit harder to love, your wife might suddenly remember those sweet gesture of yours, those efforts to woo them. So yes, do it and do it frequently, you don't have to wait for special occasion, just find reason to celebrate them. They got a promotion go out on a date, they have a good day in office?, a date. They try out new recipe and it works?, a date. They take care of the baby more?, date. Just find any reason, whenever you can. 

    Don't be stingy in your love, you don't know when it will the last time you can do it. Money comes and go, time on the other hand is irreplaceable. So go on a date, experience new food, new experience or new place. Don't wait till the day you can't anymore and you will wish you have done more of it.

    Many man is wrong on thinking the dating game is over the moment you get married, trust me on this fellas, dates after marriage if done correctly will increase the depth of the intimacy and love for each other. Don' worry if you don't know where to start, just start because I have no clue on what I'm doing when I first started, I just know that I enjoy spending my time with Aina, we food hunt together, we experience new things and places together, we discuss about the new food, the new place or the new experience and it becomes our core memories.

    Depth of our love is deeper than the Mariana Trench. We can get lost in each other eyes by just passionately looking into each other. I know I loved her that much, I sure hope everyone here is as well and I pray to Allah each of you reader can experience what me and Aina have experienced. We're selfless for each other, we love each other through thick and thin, during the good and the bad days, especially the ugly days and will go extra mile for each other and that is beautiful.

    Create a love story that you can proudly tells you kids or grand kids. How you find each other, how you go against all the odds to be with each other, all the adventure, all the life lesson, all the sacrifice, all the struggle, all the time you're about to quit but you fought back to be with each other, how selfless you both are for each other. Everyone can do it but it takes determination and perseverance, a lot of effort, good love story aren't like movie where it just happens, it's created by two soulmate who is stubborn and unwilling to give for each other. 

    Be that couple, don't stop sweeping you partner off their feet.

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