Love Is The Most Honest Mirror

    I read this some where online and I can confirm you that this is true. Have a read, and I will continue after you read the portion.



     Why is it the person who love you the most, is also the person who triggers you the deepest?. Because love isn't just about happiness, it's about awakening.

    Your partner isn't here to complete you, they're here to reveal you. Every fight, every frustration, every wound they touched is not random. It's showing you the parts of yourself that you've ignored for too long,

    They aren't breaking you, they're exposing the cracks that were already there. Love isn't suppose to be easy. It's supposed to be real.

    And real love, it forces you to face yourself.


    I've read this before but I don't really understand it and now I finally understand it. With Aina, I have grown in many area especially the deeper level mess. Most of the things I come into realization is things that I never understand the root cause of it or even worst never even realized it that it is a problem in the 1st place. 

    I learn how to be more emphatic and not too be too hard on to others and especially myself. I connect many dots just because she put in interest to understand me more. She ask me questions that make me rethink the correlation of my childhood and upbringing with my behavior and reaction when I'm in crisis now. The more I self reflect, the more I realized that I have many inner work that needed to be done in order for me to finally treat her right, give her the best.

    This love feels real, it's like a mirror to myself, exposing myself to all of my wound and trauma. Previously I don't like seeing it and ran from it, It's uncomfortable as she's helping me see what I don't want to see, my flaws, it makes me realize that I'm not perfect. I  shouldn't run from it, I should face it and heal. I appreciate it now as the easiest way to see our own flaw is to drop our own ego and admit that we are not perfect. I'm no different, imperfect man that Aina loves.

Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) also said:

“Make things easy for people and do not make things difficult for them, and give them good tidings and do not make them run away.”
— [Sahih al-Bukhari]

    True love challenges us to confront our inner struggles with patience and humility.


    In the end, love isn’t just about being seen, it’s about being challenged, understood, and transformed. With Aina, I’m learning that growth often comes from discomfort, and healing begins with awareness. She has helped me face parts of myself I never knew needed attention. For that, I am grateful and I’m committed to doing the inner work, not just for me, but for the love we’re building together.

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