Loving For The Sake Of Allah

     In previous post I did mentioned by loving Allah and prioritizing Him, your relationship with your partner will become closer. The title above sounds similar but it is completely different at the root level. 

    To prioritize Allah will strengthen your faith and ultimately make your Redha and Tawakkal process better. This will prepare you mentally and spiritually for anything that might catch you off guard and also to ensure that Allah's protection or blessing is upon you. I personally have seen Allah's wrath on myself where I prioritize Aina over Him, I tried to win her by any means and will go beyond extra mile but I can't even commit to my 5 times obligatory prayers on time. Remember that Allah dislike any of His servant to prioritize other things or person over Him as seen in this verse where it clearly warns that if you love others more than Allah, to the point of neglecting His commands, you’re at risk of divine anger.

"Say, [O Muhammad], 'If your fathers, your sons, your brothers, your spouses, your relatives, wealth which you have obtained, commerce you fear decline, and dwellings you are pleased with—are more beloved to you than Allah and His Messenger and striving in His cause, then wait until Allah executes His command. And Allah does not guide the defiantly disobedient people.'"
— (Surah At-Tawbah 9:24)

    As stated in the post "Marriage as a 3 way relationship, prioritize Allah and you will be blessed, you will definitely feel the abundance of love in your relationship. I don't know how it happens but my love towards Aina grows more when I prioritize Allah, maybe it's because I'm calmer, not as anxious of losing her as I was previously.

    This post on the other hand is about when I finally understand that when I love Aina for the sake of Allah, I can overlook her past, mistakes or even imperfection because I understand that Allah chosen Aina as my partner for a reason, to complement me, to complete me, in all her goodness and flaws. Shifting this view makes me not to fall into Shaytan whisper and beat up myself for feeling that Aina is not the one whenever an issue arises. We can console ourself by telling to ourself that Allah knows the best and is the best planner there is, therefore all the flaws or mistakes can be taken easily as a test rather than regrets. Even on the bad days, especially when your partner becomes hard to love, you will still love them for Allah. I believe we all can also practice and benefit from doing this InsyaAllah.


    "There are seven whom Allah will shade on the Day of Judgment... among them: two people who love each other for the sake of Allah, meeting and parting upon that love."

(Sahih al-Bukhari & Muslim)


    Loving for the sake of Allah means :
  • Rooted in faith — You love them because they remind you of Allah.
  • Bound by halal — You avoid sin with them, not because of them.
  • Helping each other grow — You push each other toward prayer, patience, and purpose.
  • Independent of worldly benefits — Even if they can't give you much, you still care deeply.

    Beside changing perspective, we can also do some of this as the foundation of the relationship.

  • Start with Intentions (Niat):
    Ask yourself: Do I love this person because they bring me closer to Allah? Or just because they bring me comfort or desire?
  • Guard the Boundaries (Hijab of the Heart):
    -     Avoid haram communication or physical intimacy.
    - Love without crossing limits is a sign of spiritual maturity.
  • Support Each Other’s Deen:
    -     Pray for them. Remind them of salah.
    - Encourage modesty, kindness, Qur’an reading.
  • Avoiding Sin Is a Form of Love:
    -     True love says: “I care too much about your akhirat to drag you into sin.”
  • Make Du’a for Them:
    -     Pray: “Ya Allah, if this is good for my deen and dunia, bring us together in halal. If not, remove them from my heart with ease.”
  • Keep Allah at the Center:
    -     Talk about Jannah, serve others together, attend Islamic talks, seek knowledge.

    Real love in Islam isn’t just romance, It's also protecting each other from sin, leading each other on the path to Jannah, being patient during hardship, making sacrifices out of mercy & staying loyal through faith. 

    Truth to be told, I smiled when I did more research on this topic as I have done all the steps mentioned above without realizing it, not by miracle or anything but rather from the grace of Allah. The moment you correct your Niat (Nawaitu), everything else falls into place naturally. You will do all the steps above without feeling forced as it just feels right.

    Loving for the sake of Allah means loving someone in a way that brings you both closer to Him, not further away. 

    It’s not just about who you love, but why you love and how you love.

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